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30 day challenge: tame the tongue



I’m in the throws of packing, packing and more packing. We head out Friday for our new “home” in Alabama. I’ve been so busy getting ready, creating, sorting through toys (with 832 tiny parts, to be exact), painting and recovering 2 neat old furniture pieces and to top it off I sold one of my favorite works of art.


It was also “help mom do random stuff” day...so they did dishes, spray painted art, swept the floor, and cleaned the toilets. This is actually the third time we’ve had this lesson....the ten step process of cleaning a toilet...I should do a YouTube video...how to clean a toilet. Nevertheless, I think they’ve got it down.....until next time, that is, when they play dumb like they ain’t never seen a toilet wand. What!?!??? We did also manage to squeeze in a couple nerf gun battles and trampoline jumping, to make it fair.


As I think about teaching them toilets several times, (including ‘keep your pee in the middle and for crying out loud, put the seat DOWN’) I have a small concern.....when do the things we’re teaching our kids actually solidify, or take any shape whatsoever? I feel as if I’m throwing noodles at a wall hoping they’ll stick...

.......cause then they’re done, right.

I can’t remember why I would see my mom throw noodles at the wall. Or even better yet, why I feel the need to bring it up now. Awkward.


The fun didn’t stop with toilets and nerf...no, no.

My 7 & 9 year old boys then had a lesson on the danger of matches, how to use them correctly (and safely, I should add), and how to light some candles without the use of bandaids. Not sure what age they’re supposed to learn these valuable lessons. Do I hear a Mom of the year award or book deal coming? Feel free to send Oprah an email....let her know I’ll see her soon, I can’t wait to meet her....I don’t even need an actual award....a shout out will do just fine.


When do the things we’re teaching our kids actually solidify, or take any shape whatsoever? I feel as if I’m throwing noodles at a wall hoping they’ll stick...

.......cause then they’re done, right.

I can’t remember why I would see my mom throw noodles at the wall. Or even better yet, why I feel the need to bring it up now. Awkward.


Does my random matches lighting practice even fit with my story?

It sets the scene, one could say.

It’s the backdrop on which my point will emerge.

I like that I can just have a conversation with myself; so effortlessly. Thoughts to a page. And here we are.


It all started with a word.


Words have power.

Power to create, heal, transform, release, and even wound, hurt and destroy. Amid the hustle of trying to pack up my life to move, yet again, I found myself grumbling yesterday when I was loading up our Land Rover....alone. I lifted heavy box after box, art, keepsakes and a giant clock of my grandmothers, all of which have been sitting in my in-laws shed taking up prime space for too many years.


Well, anyway, I was mumbling under my breath, even if only for a second. As quick as the complaint came out of my mouth I knew it had power. How can anything change in my life if I complain about what I have or don’t have or the situation I find myself in? My complaining fuels negative thinking which begets more complaining.


In that moment, I made a choice to change my thoughts and more specifically my words. I am so blessed to have all this cool stuff and a car to load them into. I’m thankful God gave me strength to life heavy, awkward things. I’m thankful there’s an adventure packed tomorrow facing me with a grin. I’m thankful for a husband who works so hard to provide for his family....these things are what count.


It’s gonna be alright.




Words...


So do you ever find yourself saying you hate something? I hate traffic. I hate when I stub my toe. I hate onions. I hate when my kids talk back to me. I hate when I get an eyelash stuck in my eye. So maybe you’ve used the word a bit too. Hate is a strong word we toss around a bit too loosely....we all do.


My question to us, you and me, what do we find ourselves telling ourselves? Out of every voice you hear, yours is the one you believe the most. So are we gonna change our talk? I’m working on it.


I challenge you.....30 days....no negativity. No complaining, grumbling, heavy sighing (‘cause it’s a subtle form of griping). Replace that with an intentional smile and a recovery statement. By recovery statement I mean, if you were gonna complain about it being too cold outside you instead change your statement to that of gratitude for your warm coat, or your car’s heater, or a roof over your head. You can’t complain and spew out words of gratefulness at the same time....it’s just impossible.


Replace a negative with a positive. Even if it’s by faith now. Even if everything around you is chaos, crisis, and confusing you can chose better words.


I’ve talked about this before, I’m sure. You’ve heard it said a hundred times. But can we do it? A whole 30 days without grumbling and speaking negativity. I bet it would change a lot of things.


It’s in the little things.



Truth is, I keep catching myself.


Everyone does it.

You don’t have to be like everyone else. When the guy behind you in the grocery has a bad attitude about the slow checker or long line and you just flutter a sweet hearted comment in return about how you bet she’s doing her best and it shouldn’t take much longer. You could even offer to let them go ahead of you in que. now that’s a shocker. Maybe he’s in a hurry to get back to the hospital cause his wife is having a baby. I don’t know, I’m just saying we need to watch our words and also apply grace to every instance. Grace for yourself and grace for others. We all fall short. None is perfect, not one. Grace is another subject all together but you can see how it ties in.


Embrace your imperfect but work at improving yourself as greatly as you can. 30 days to a better you.....I know you got this.



Love y’all


Blu Wyatt

“Like apples of gold in settings of silver is a word spoken at the right time.”

‭‭PROVERBS‬ ‭25:11‬ ‭AMP‬‬



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